Do you satisfy the hunger or others or yourself? Romans 15-16

People are hungry. They are hungry for lots of things. Their "appetite" is often clear and they attempt to please it (Romans 16:17-18). That is how Paul ends this section. He warns us to stay clear of those who only want to statisfy their own appetities to please themselves. But, Paul begins this section in 15:1,2 with an admonishment to "bear" with those in the faith and not "please oursleves" but to satisfy the needs of others. Outside of avoiding specific sins in our lives isn't this the hardest of all Christian duties? We are to propell ourselves into a life that is duty focused "on others." I believe, becuase this is such a tough rigor of Christian faith, that is the reason Paul uses Christ as the example for our fulfillment of this duty in 15:3. Since Christ took on our weaknesses and sin and infirmeries, we, too, ought to take on the struggles and self-pleasing hungers of others and not try to "please ourselves." We can only do that because Christ did it and because He is living within us. We, in fact, can't do it. It must be because of what Christ is doing in us through the ministry of the Holy Spirit; which is what Paul previously wrote and outlines in Romans 7:4,6 and chapter 8. Evidence of faith and the Spirit's work in our lives is the ability to know that Christ is working through "by loving others through us." We are the conduit for Him to express love. That love takes on the look of pleasing others rather than pleasing ourselves. That is when you know you are loving and when you know God's love is flowing through you but the ministry of the Spirit. When you love others to the extent you are bearing them and pleasing them over yourself you know you are experiencing Spirit filled love.