Luke 8:19-21 (ESV)
Then his mother and his brothers came to him, but they could not reach him because of the crowd. And he was told, “Your mother and your brothers are standing outside, desiring to see you.” But he answered them, “My mother and my brothers are those who hear the word of God and do it.”
The above incident in Jesus’ adult ministry is referred to in Matthew and Mark’s accounts as well:
Matthew 12:46-49 (ESV)
While he was still speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him. But he replied to the man who told him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers!
Mark 3:31-34 (ESV)
And his mother and his brothers came, and standing outside they sent to him and called him. And a crowd was sitting around him, and they said to him, “Your mother and your brothers are outside, seeking you.” And he answered them, “Who are my mother and my brothers?” And looking about at those who sat around him, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers!
Jesus is making a demanding statement in these passages. We talk a lot about having priorities in life. Read what Jesus will say in a few chapters, as recorded by Luke:
Luke 14:25-27 (ESV)
Now great crowds accompanied him, and he turned and said to them, “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.
We talk a lot about having God first, family second, church third, the rest of the world (work, play, etc) last. Jesus is very demanding here. The space between #1 (God) and #2 (family) seems to be a pretty large gap, based upon Jesus’ words. He is counting those who follow him, greater than His family. Jesus seems to be inserting the disciples of Christ as more important than family. That would not fly in the minds of most parents today. Yes, God is first, in their minds, but disciples of Christ are not before kids/family. This is why doing things with family on Sunday often trumps being committed to corporate worship with the disciples of Christ. I am not sure of many churches that would even teach this. Yet, Jesus seems to be saying that although his family had a need, He was re-defining His family. Christianity has always held the family unit as paramount. How do these words of Jesus influence that thinking? We drop everything for family. Would we drop everything for God’s family, the disciples of Christ? Christ demands a lot from those who follow Him. Note these collection of verses and allow them to help you navigate this struggle between God, family, church, and life:
John 12:25 (ESV)
Whoever loves his life loses it, and whoever hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
Luke 14:33 (ESV)
So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.
Luke 14:26 (ESV)
“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.
Matthew 10:39 (ESV)
Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.
Matthew 16:25 (ESV)
For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.
Mark 8:35 (ESV)
For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel's will save it.
Luke 9:24 (ESV)
For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.
Luke 17:33 (ESV)
Whoever seeks to preserve his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will keep it.
John 12:26 (ESV)
If anyone serves me, he must follow me; and where I am, there will my servant be also. If anyone serves me, the Father will honor him.
Jesus is quite demanding and challenges our traditional thought of priorities.