Do you love in order to feel love; or do you feel love in order to love? Song of Songs 4-5

Song of Songs 4:10
“How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your love than wine,
And the fragrance of your oils
Than all kinds of spices!

In chapter four of this love story Solomon is describing his bride and her beauty to him.   He uses a wide variety of terms and word-pictures to share with the reader what he feels and senses when he is with his love.  In the above passage he does the same, using three senses to describe what she does for him.   He uses sight ("how beautiful").  He uses taste ("how much better is you love than wine").   And, he uses smell ("... and the fragrance of oils ...").  Love affects the senses.   Love stirs the senses and the emotions.   We often talk about love being more of a verb than a noun.  Love should be an action word ... something we do.   It should no be a noun ... something we feel.   Yet, we should have our senses stirred by love.  When you look at your love you ought to have those senses stirred.  This passage is not telling you "will" happen when you are in love, but what "could" happen when you are in love.  Love is a verb and an action that we do, not something we feel.  Yet, when we start doing love it should not surprise us that the feelings of love follow and the senses of love kick in to do what Solomon was experiencing.   Some are ONLY attracted by the senses.  Sight, smell and taste are the only way they experience love.   Lust can do the same thing if we only look for a stirring of the senses.   That is not what Solomon is describing.   Solomon has already described his sacrificial love for his bride.  He would lay his life down for her.   What we have in the above text is the description of what the feelings look like AFTER he has demonstrated unconditional and sacrificial love for his beloved.  When we love in holiness and in action the senses are put in proper order and kick in to give us an excitement, not contained or provided in any other aspect of life.   In the wrong order it leads to disaster and emptiness (See the story of Amnon and Tamar in 2 Samuel 13:15).   When we love unconditionally and sacrificially (meaning we will give up our lives for each other) the emotion of the senses kicks in and we can enjoy that aspect of love.  These senses don't define love and they don't initiate love; they are the results of love.