Judges 19:2-10 (ESV)
And his concubine was unfaithful to him, and she went away from him to her father’s house at Bethlehem in Judah, and was there some four months. Then her husband arose and went after her, to speak kindly to her and bring her back. He had with him his servant and a couple of donkeys. And she brought him into her father’s house. And when the girl’s father saw him, he came with joy to meet him. And his father-in-law, the girl’s father, made him stay, and he remained with him three days. So they ate and drank and spent the night there. And on the fourth day they arose early in the morning, and he prepared to go, but the girl’s father said to his son-in-law, “Strengthen your heart with a morsel of bread, and after that you may go.” So the two of them sat and ate and drank together. And the girl’s father said to the man, “Be pleased to spend the night, and let your heart be merry.” And when the man rose up to go, his father-in-law pressed him, till he spent the night there again. And on the fifth day he arose early in the morning to depart. And the girl’s father said, “Strengthen your heart and wait until the day declines.” So they ate, both of them. And when the man and his concubine and his servant rose up to depart, his father-in-law, the girl’s father, said to him, “Behold, now the day has waned toward evening. Please, spend the night. Behold, the day draws to its close. Lodge here and let your heart be merry, and tomorrow you shall arise early in the morning for your journey, and go home.”
But the man would not spend the night. He rose up and departed and arrived opposite Jebus (that is, Jerusalem). He had with him a couple of saddled donkeys, and his concubine was with him.
If you want the recipe for disaster, read the above again. This man, we don’t know his name, will set off a war in Israel as a result of his initial behavior. After the story we read above and he arrives in Jerusalem, his concubine will be raped. He will, as a result, cut her up into twelve pieces and ship the twelve pieces around to the twelve tribes, asking for vengeance. The vengeance will create thousands of deaths. All this started because the man liked to party. It started as a relationship problem and ended as a disastrous war. He went to find his concubine to bring her home. Her father convinced him to party. He did so for five days. He finally leaves, so late in the evening, it put him and her in a dangerous situation. The people of Jerusalem are at fault here. But the opportunity was created from a man who didn’t have self control. Be careful when we scream out that someone was wrong, that you also point out your own flaws.